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Virtualni haos - da li je ovo buducnost naše dece?
zvezdica_Danica
(hip-hop dancer)
04. јун 2009. у 20.55


emisija od prije neki dan...

ukratko ću napisati prevod za one koji ne znaju engleski

http://www.drphil.com/shows/show/1149

prvi slučaj

Žena se oseca zapostavljenom oseca da je porodica ugrozena i zato je odlucila da se javi Dr Philu za pomoć.

muž 34 godina igra igrice po čitav dan, priznaje da igra i po 10 casova dnevno. I pored toga sto ima ženu i decu on provodi negde oko 80 sati nedeljno za kompjuterom!

u porodici radi samo žena. ona kaže, posto nemaju dovoljno para, muž ju je nagovarao da uzme još jedan posao pored ovog kojeg već ima...

eeeej, da bi on mogao da nastavi sa svojim igricama?!

http://www.drphil.com/slideshows/slideshow/4695/?id=4695&slide=1&showID=1149&preview=&versionID=
„When the clip ends, Dr. Phil asks Fred to explain exactly what he does in the virtual world.

In computer jargon, Fred talks about the points and gear he accumulates as he reaches new levels. He describes the appeal of the game as, ”Going for something better … like in real life, you’re always going for something better. You want a job, you want a better job. You have a house, you want a better house.„

The analogy causes both Juli and Dr. Phil to point out that Fred no longer strives for those things in the real world.

”You talk about these like they’re real, like you’ve got better gear, have you got any of it with you? Could you show me some of the better gear? Have you got your mount outside?„

Fred laughs, ”No I don’t.„

After everyone shares a laugh, the discussion continues on a more serious note. ”The truth is you’ve sacrificed your leadership role in this family, true?„ asks Dr. Phil.

”True,„ says Fred.

”You’ve become addicted to the computer and you’re not taking care of business. You’re not taking care of business mentally, emotionally, spiritually, physically. You’re just not taking care of business, you’re just playing games.

„You’re family is going to loše their house if you don’t get off your computer and go out and get a job.” says Dr. Phil.

„He’s very smart, there are so many things he can do,” defends Juli.

„Apparently he’s got you supporting him and taking care of the house. I wonder what level that is in the real world,” Dr. Phil quips. „

nastavak

http://www.drphil.com/slideshows/slideshow/4695/?id=4695&slide=2&showID=1149&preview=&versionID=
dru gi slučaj:

mladic 21 je nađen za kompjuterom mrtav. Ubio se nakon što je igrao igrice...

izgubio je osecaj realnosti.

njegova mama kaže da je živio čitavo vreme sa njom, provodio vreme igrajuci se igricama negde oko 3 meseca i onda se izgubio ...

postao depresivan, nocu nije spavao, nije isao da radi, niti je isao negde napolje da se zabavlja...

a bio je pametan i imao buducnost.

http://www.drphil.com/slideshows/slideshow/4696/?id=4696&slide=1&showID=1149&preview=&versionID=
treci slučaj:

http://www.drphil.com/slideshows/slideshow/4696/?id=4696&showID=1149

Brad je bio zavisnik od svoje 13-te kada mu je mama kupila igricu. Ozenio se, zaduzio se, izgubio karijeru...kad je shvatio da je preterao, pokusao je da se ubije.

žena ga je ovako opisala: Brad se svakim danom sve vise izolirao, nije hteo da izlazi i cinio sve da i mene odvoji od mojih prijatelja.

tu je napomenuto koliko je veliku sumu Bred utrosio za upgrade svog kompjutera da bi na njemu mogao igradi novije igrice i sa vecom brzinom.

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da li se prepoznajes u ovom?

da li mislis da je vreme da nešto promenis u svom zivotu?

za one koji su u braku, da li ti je bracni drug zapostavljen?

A TVOJA DECA? da li ih zapostavljas?

STA TI RADE DECA?

DA LI CE OVO ZADESITI I TVOJE DETE?

i na kraju, GDE IDE OVAJ SVET?

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piromanka
(veliki dr mr)
07. јун 2009. у 14.03
imam naročitu averziju prema odraslima koji se ponasaju kao idioti sa tim igricama!
ja sam se razvela od muza zbo njegovog neprekidnog sedenja za pc-om!!!!nije bi bas extreman ko prvi slučaj dr. phil-a ali priblizan.kucom,sa mnom i detetom se uopste nije bavio,što se posla tiče,non-stop je uzimao bolovanja da bi sedeo kuci i igrao(ovde gde živimo,bolovanje je placeno 100%).ma strava!ja sam na sve nacine pokusavala da mu nekako pomognem,ali posle 4 godine pokusavanja,odustala sam i razvela se!!!!!
sad sam srećna i zadovoljna.mnogo manje nervozna sto je dobro i za moje dete i mene.a on nek se sad igra do mile volje i neka se snalazi kako zna i ume da obezbedi sebi novac za stan i hranu!eto...
zvezdica_Danica
(hip-hop dancer)
07. јун 2009. у 16.50
da li mislis da postoji mogućnost da ti se muž trgne nakon što vas je sada izgubio?

čini mi se da sam negde na sajtu dr phila videla neke savete za ovakve zavisnike...pokusacu da ih nađempa ću ih postaviti sutra...

zvezdica_Danica
(hip-hop dancer)
08. јун 2009. у 07.10
kako prekinuti zavisnost

http://www.drphil.com/articles/article/173
još jedan tekst:

Computer games are supposed to be fun, but when a hobby turns into an addiction, virtual fantasy worlds can wreck real lives and ruin real marriages.

Sixty-five percent of American households play computer and video games, and surprisingly, the average player is 35 years old. And, if these video games can wreak havoc in adult lives, imagine the effect they could have on children. Check the following list to see if you or your child is at risk:


1. Do you feel that you need to play online games as a way of dealing with anxiety or depression in your general life?

2. Are you preoccupied with gaming so much that you are distracted from the priorities in your life, such as relationships, school or jobs?

3. Have you lied to your friends or family to conceal your obsessive thinking about gaming?

4. Do you get restless and irritable when you are away from gaming or feel that you are restricted from your next gaming event?

5. Have you attempted to stop or cut back your gaming behavior, but failed because of the anxiety, depression or general stress you experience?

6. Do you feel you need to play online games because it gives you the self-esteem and confidence other activities don’t?

7. Have you lost or damaged a relationship, such as affectionate, sexual or parental connection because of your obsession, lying or distorting your behavior of gaming?

8. Have you diminished your goals, such as grades, sports, money, etc. because of your obsession with gaming?

9. Have you lost or damaged job opportunities because of your obsessive gaming behavior?

10. Have you lost or damaged family and community relationships because of your gaming behavior?



If you have answered „yes” or even „sometimes” to any of these 10 questions, it is highly likely you are dealing with an addictive behavioral pattern to gaming. It is recommended that you seek help for this issue so that you can develop a healthy balance of mental health to your life.

http://www.drphil.com/articles/article/573
LeaDiKaprio
(shumska)
09. јун 2009. у 12.33
Ja ne razumem one koji ne razumeju ljude koji su zavisni.

Ne postoji LOGICNO objašnjenje za addiction (odnosno za navlacenje na duvan, alkohol, drogu, igrice, secer). Neki ljudi resavaju svoj problem na taj način i to je otprilike dokle mi, posmatraci sa strane, možemo doći sa svojom logikom i svojim merilima vrednosti.

Virtuelni svet je veoma, veoma privlacan.
bubasandra
(student)
11. јун 2009. у 21.23
Zato postoji riječ „disciplina”.
Sve je stvar „discipline”. Koliko jedes, koliko i ako pijes alkohol, da li se kockas, da li si „ukljucen” u struju, da li trosis pare k'o lud...
Nije lako disciplinovano zivjeti, ali je disciplina odgovor na mnoga pitanja.
Sve je stvar izbora.
zvezdica_Danica
(hip-hop dancer)
11. јун 2009. у 22.26
LeaDiKaprio
(shumska)
09. jun 2009. u 12.33

Virtuelni svet je veoma, veoma privlacan.

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jeste privlacan, sve dok znaš za granicu i sve dok ne povredjujes nikog u svojoj okolini sa svojim virtualnim svetom.

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